Be The Change You Need. Podcast

In this final episode of the "Coming Home to Yourself" series!
What does it actually mean to come home to yourself?
It doesn’t mean you wake up one day completely healed, never people-please again, never question yourself, and suddenly make perfect decisions for the rest of your life. 😂
In this final episode of the Coming Home to Yourself series, I’m talking about what this work actually looks like in real life.
For me, coming home has been about building the kind of relationship with myself that I spent so much of my life trying to earn from everyone else.
A relationship where I know who I am.
Where I trust myself without needing to know every decision will work out.
Where my love for myself isn’t dependent on my weight, success, productivity, confidence, or whether other people approve of me.
And where, when I DO catch myself abandoning what I want, need, believe, or know to be true for me, I recognize it and know how to come back.
In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, and continue choosing yourself - especially when life gets uncomfortable.
I’m also bringing the entire series together through The BTCHYN Way™: Unravel → Upgrade → Uplevel, and sharing why this work was never about becoming some better version of yourself.
It’s about finally knowing the woman underneath everything you learned you had to be.
Because you didn’t lose yourself.
You learned to leave yourself.
And something you learned can be changed.
Know her. Trust her. Love her. Choose her.
Again and again and again.
And this time - don’t leave her. 💛
You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
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What happens to your relationships when you stop automatically saying yes, changing your answer when someone is disappointed, keeping your opinions to yourself, or making yourself responsible for how everyone else feels?
Because choosing yourself sounds great…until you have to do it around the people you love. 😂
In Part Five of the Coming Home to Yourself series, I’m talking about what happens when YOU change how you participate in your relationships—and the people around you experience that change too.
We’re getting into the difference between caring about someone’s feelings and becoming responsible for them, why someone else’s discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you’ve done something wrong, and how to hear another person’s perspective without immediately abandoning your own.
Because self-trust doesn’t mean believing you’re always right. It means being able to listen, own your shit when you need to, repair when necessary, and still recognize when something simply doesn’t belong to you.
Some relationships will grow with you. Some will need time to adjust. Some may change completely. And some may become stronger because you’re finally allowing yourself to be fully known.
Coming home to yourself doesn’t mean going home alone.
You can love someone without disappearing inside the relationship.
You can hear them and still hear yourself.
And you can care deeply about their opinion without handing them authority over who you are. 💛
 
You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
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What happens when you start unraveling from who you learned you had to be…and suddenly the woman you’ve been for years doesn’t fit anymore?
That in-between can feel confusing as hell.
You know you can’t go back to being who you were, but you’re still discovering the woman underneath the expectations, roles, beliefs, and ways you learned to make yourself acceptable to everyone else.
In Part Four of the Coming Home to Yourself series, we’re talking about why we often confuse familiarity with identity, why doing something differently can feel so wrong at first, and the grief that can come with outgrowing a version of yourself—even when you WANT to grow.
We’re also talking about one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my own journey:
Unfamiliar and wrong are not the same thing.
You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to want different things. You’re allowed to discover parts of yourself you’ve never given yourself permission to explore before.
And honoring the woman you’ve been does not require you to keep being her.
This week, I want you to pay attention every time you hear yourself say, “That’s just not who I am.”
Then ask yourself:
Is it actually not who I am…or is it just not who I’ve allowed myself to be?
Because the hardest part of becoming more yourself isn’t always figuring out who you are.
Sometimes it’s having the courage to accept her when you finally meet her. 💛
You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
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Sometimes nobody has to tell you who to be anymore.
You’ve been living by the expectation for so long that it sounds like your own voice.
Be a good mom. Be a good wife. Be responsible. Don’t disappoint people. Don’t ask for too much. You should be happy. You shouldn’t want more. This is just who you are.
But…is it?
In Part Three of this series, we’re talking about the expectations, beliefs, roles, and rules we can learn when we’re young and continue living by decades later without ever stopping to ask whether we actually chose them.
This isn’t about blaming our parents, our childhoods, or anyone else for who we became. It’s about understanding what shaped us so we can finally ask one incredibly important question:
“Is this actually mine?”
You’re allowed to keep what still feels true. You’re allowed to question what doesn’t. And you’re allowed to unravel from being who you learned you had to be so you can discover who you actually desire to be.
You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
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You know what you want…so why are you still asking everyone else what you should do?
For years, I thought I was indecisive. I’d ask my husband what he thought, get irritated when he told me to “do what you want,” and then overthink the hell out of whatever decision I was trying to make.
What I eventually realized was that I wasn’t always looking for advice.
I was looking for permission.
In Part Two of this series, we’re talking about what choosing yourself actually looks like after years of people-pleasing, second-guessing yourself, and making other people’s reactions more important than your own inner knowing.
We’ll talk about the difference between asking for perspective and asking for permission, why choosing yourself can feel so uncomfortable at first, and why self-trust isn’t knowing you’ll always make the right decision, it’s trusting that you won’t abandon yourself when you don’t.
Because coming home to yourself isn’t one huge moment.
It’s built every time you hear your own voice, trust it, and choose her. 💛
In this episode:
Why “do what you want” used to piss me off 😂
Perspective vs. permission
Why someone’s disappointment doesn’t automatically mean you’re wrong
What choosing yourself actually means
How imperfect decisions build self-trust
One simple question to start hearing your own voice again
You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
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Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?
In Part 1 of this two-part series, I’m talking about self-abandonment—how we learn to pay so much attention to what other people want, need, think, and expect from us that our own voice becomes harder and harder to hear.
I’m sharing how discovering the truth about my biological father at eight years old shaped my beliefs around belonging and abandonment, how those beliefs followed me into adulthood, and why I became so damn good at becoming who I thought other people needed me to be.
We’ll also talk about the everyday ways self-abandonment shows up through people-pleasing, permission-seeking, keeping the peace, changing ourselves to belong, and feeling responsible for everyone else’s happiness.
Because you may not have lost yourself at all.
You may have learned to leave yourself. And what you learned, you can begin to change.
In Part 2, we’ll talk about how to start choosing yourself again. ❤️
What's next?
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What happens when the life that looks successful on paper no longer feels like the life you’re meant to live?
In this episode of Be The Change You Need, Tara sits down with author, motivational speaker, and mindset and manifestation coach DaNajah O’Neal for a beautiful conversation about courage, surrender, faith, and what it really means to create a life that makes you feel alive.
DaNajah shares what gave her the courage to leave a successful career in finance and accounting, completely change paths, and move to Costa Rica with two suitcases — to a country she had never even visited before. What began as a bold leap quickly became a much deeper lesson in surrender, trust, and learning how to keep moving forward even when you don’t have all the answers.
Together, Tara and DaNajah explore the difference between dreaming about a different life and actually choosing it, how manifestation and surrender can exist together, and why releasing control can become one of the most powerful parts of creating what you truly desire.
They also dive into the heart behind DaNajah’s debut book, The Surrender Way, and why she chose to tell her story while she was still living it rather than waiting until everything was perfectly wrapped up on the other side.
This conversation is an invitation to ask yourself:
What actually lights me up?What would it look like to trust myself enough to follow it?And what might become possible if I stopped needing every detail figured out before I began?
Because sometimes courage isn’t knowing exactly how things will unfold.
It’s choosing the life that feels true to you anyway.
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What if becoming the woman you’re meant to be has less to do with changing who you are… and more to do with finally choosing to fully be her?
In this episode of Be The Change You Need, Tara reflects on one of Dolly Parton’s most powerful pieces of wisdom:
“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”
It’s a simple sentence, but it holds so much truth about authenticity, identity, and what it means to consciously create a life that actually feels like yours.
Tara shares what it looks like to stop looking outside of yourself for permission and begin getting curious about the woman looking back at you. She also explores the power of mirror work, intentionally meeting yourself with love, and why being able to look yourself in the eyes and genuinely say, “I love you,” can become such a meaningful part of healing your relationship with yourself.
This episode is an invitation to know yourself more deeply, honor who you are becoming, and begin showing up as that woman on purpose.
Because authenticity isn’t something you perform.
It’s something you embody.
And the more you choose to see, love, honor, and trust yourself, the more your life begins to reflect the woman you truly are.
🎙️ Listen, reflect, and come back next week as Tara takes this conversation even deeper into what it means to claim your identity and intentionally live as her.
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What if the reason something hasn’t fully changed yet isn’t because you don’t want it badly enough… but because a part of you still isn’t ready to receive it?
In this episode, Tara explores the connection between healing, limiting beliefs, identity, and our ability to create something different in our lives. She shares the story of a woman who is still living emotionally behind something that happened nearly 50 years ago, and how powerful it can be to recognize when an old experience is still shaping the way we see ourselves today.
Because wanting change and being available for change are two very different things. Sometimes we say we want more love, more success, more freedom, more peace, or a completely different life, while beliefs and patterns from the past are still influencing what feels safe, possible, or available to us.
In this episode, Tara also briefly shares insight inspired by Jason Lennox’s book and talks about why healing requires willingness. Awareness is important, but there comes a point when we have to decide whether we are ready to release what we have been carrying and make room for something new.
You’ll also hear more about Tara’s Soul Medicine Healing Sessions and how both virtual and in-person sessions are designed to help uncover emotional patterns, limiting beliefs, and energetic imprints that may be affecting what you allow yourself to receive.
If you’ve been asking yourself why a certain goal, desire, or outcome still feels just out of reach, this episode will invite you to look at a deeper question:
Are you truly open to receiving what you say you want?
Healing begins with awareness. Receiving begins with willingness.
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What happens when you realize you’ve been spending your energy trying to control something that was never yours to control?
In this deeply personal, completely off-script episode, Tara shares a realization that came through while recording: she had been standing on what she calls the island of no control — focused on judgment, other people’s opinions, and how others might respond to her work as a psychic, medium, intuitive, and healer.
And in doing that, she was holding herself back from the one place where she actually does have power: her own island.
The place where she gets to choose whether she shows up, speaks her truth, follows God’s guidance, honors her gifts, and participates fully in the life she feels called to live.
In this episode, Tara explores what it means to surrender what was never yours to manage and come back to what is: your choices, your boundaries, your actions, your truth, your identity, and your willingness to answer the calling on your life.
This is a conversation about authenticity, faith, visibility, and the freedom that comes when you stop organizing your life around how other people may perceive you.
Because surrender isn’t giving up your power.
It’s releasing what you were never meant to control so you can finally take full ownership of what you can.
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